Let’s Talk About Friendship (For Real)

Rethinking the Word ‘Friend’

We use the word 'friend' like confetti, but not everyone in your life deserves that title. Here's why redefining it matters more than ever.

Not Everyone Is Your Friend — And That’s Okay

We throw the word friend around way too casually.

Somebody connects with us on Instagram? “That’s my friend.”

We worked one job together 10 years ago and now like each other’s posts? “Oh, she’s a friend of mine.”

We’ve shared a brunch table once or twice? “That’s the homegirl.”

But the truth is: everyone is not your friend. And that’s okay.

It’s time to be more intentional with how we use the word. Associate. Acquaintance. Colleague. Peer. They all serve a purpose. Using those words doesn’t mean there’s any drama. It just means we’re being honest.

What Real Friendship Looks Like

Because friendship—real friendship—carries weight. It’s not about proximity or performance. It’s about connection. Consistency. Care.

Friends show up for you in and out of season.

They check in when they sense something’s off.

They hype you up when you forget who you are.

They hold you accountable when needed.

They support your growth, not just your wins.

They don't compete with you; they support you.

It’s Not About How Often You Talk

Friendship isn’t measured by how often you talk. You don’t need to speak every day, every month, or even every year. But when you reconnect, it feels natural. Comfortable. Like no time passed.

Give Me Depth, Not Volume

The older I get, the more I understand that I don’t need a big circle. What I need—and what I truly value—are meaningful, authentic connections. Give me depth over numbers any day.

Time Doesn’t Equal Value

Just because you’ve known someone for years doesn’t mean the relationship holds more weight. That bestie from college who rarely checks in doesn’t automatically rank higher than the friend you met last year who shows up consistently. Time doesn’t define relationship. Presence does.

What does friendship look like for you these days? And where might you need to redefine it?

More soon 💛